Category Archives: little bits of life

‘Coping’ — side-stepping the moment

Posted on August 25, 2013 by Adventure Girl

I could no longer distinguish childhood me from the person I am now. I had no mechanism to escape the shame of everything I have ever been and loathed: jealous, insecure, manipulative, weak, helpless, angry. The anger that is inside me at times is frightening, and I couldn’t switch it off. Occasionally it leaks out, unexpectedly, and completely misdirected. Then I feel more shame for having lost control so inappropriately. Most of all I wanted to stop being a burden on the people around me, especially my partner, who had to put up with my crazy. Continue reading →

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My fear

Posted on August 1, 2013 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl learns the true cost of being afraid ‘As a general rule, the less one’s sense of life fulfilment, the greater one’s death anxiety.’ –Dr Irvin Yalom, Love’s Executioner My father was an intimidating man who ruled by fear. … Continue reading →

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Reflection in search of an Echo

Posted on May 16, 2013 by Rhonda Perky

‘Adore me!’ she cries, again and again, ‘for without your eyes to see me, I might disappear.’

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Seeing all sides

Posted on March 3, 2013 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl learns the perils of too few points of view Over the years I have encountered many people who appear incapable of seeing anything from another person’s point of view. You probably know someone like this. Someone who is always … Continue reading →

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When a gift isn’t really a gift

Posted on February 11, 2013 by Rhonda Perky

By definition, a gift is ‘something that is bestowed voluntarily and without compensation.’ When I give a gift or offer my support or my time, I do so freely, because I want to, because it feels good to, and with … Continue reading →

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An African Adventure

Posted on January 2, 2013 by Adventure Girl

I’ve been in eastern Africa for a week now and I’m not sure where to start: the poverty, the corruption, HIV, the culture, the church. Right now I’m camped inside the grounds at a Kenyan orphanage. It is both warming … Continue reading →

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One foot in the closet

Posted on September 7, 2012 by Rhonda Perky

‘Often I find identifying as bisexual is akin to having multiple passports for different countries, all expired.’ — Faith Cheltenham, President of BiNet USA, in ‘Google’s Bisexual Problem’ For a while now I’ve wondered whether or not I should tell … Continue reading →

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Who is Rhonda Perky?

Posted on April 10, 2012 by Rhonda Perky

“Facebook is where we lie to our friends. Twitter is where we are honest with strangers” –via twitter Like most writers, when I work I assume a persona, whether I’m writing fiction or non-fiction, blogging, tweeting, even posting on a … Continue reading →

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Whose privates are they anyway?

Posted on March 29, 2012 by Tiger Tale

‘A job is not my life, social networks don’t make me and I’m pretty damn sure that 9/10ths of the executives who are judging people have either got a lot more to hide than the average employee or are just pissed … Continue reading →

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The Magic Number

Posted on March 2, 2012 by Rhonda Perky

‘Is a girl who’s slept with 100 guys a bad person?’ This is an actual question on the dating site, OkCupid. Not, ‘Would you feel differently about a person, and in what way?’, but ‘Is she a good or bad person’? (Note: I … Continue reading →

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10 Things I’ve learned about blogging

Posted on June 27, 2011 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl learns a lesson in putting it on show I’ve been writing for Rhonda Perky’s Bitsfor just over a year now, and it seemed as good a time as any to take stock of some blogging lessons I’ve had … Continue reading →

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‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’

Posted on May 29, 2011 by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover what it means to be a Modern ‘Slut’. ‘Men want women to be sluts and now they’re buying in,’ — Professor Gail Dines, quoted in the Brisbane Times. Until a few years … Continue reading →

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Where has all the love gone?

Posted on May 18, 2011 by Tiger Tale

Tiger Tale laments the loss of lovin’ in the world of cyber sex Driving home from work a couple of nights ago, I was stopped at the lights, and when I looked to my left I saw a young couple at … Continue reading →

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Keeping the adventure alive, or ‘Homeward bound’

Posted on January 3, 2011 by Adventure Girl

It’s my last morning in Buenos Aires and my last morning on this particular adventure. In less than an hour I will be on my way to the airport for the final leg home. As I’m writing this I can’t … Continue reading →

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Mixing and matching – living with the locals

Posted on December 28, 2010 by Adventure Girl

‘I will never fob off a foreigner in Boganburbia again.’ In the time I have been travelling I am constantly amazed at how friendly and helpful South Americans are. Even sitting in an airport terminal, there is always a local … Continue reading →

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Recipe for adventure: just add people

Posted on December 27, 2010 by Adventure Girl

‘Girls who go on trekking tours don’t do one night stands,’ – a fellow trekker on the Inca Trail. For my first real solo-adventure, I opted for safety in numbers, and jumped on a few smallish group tours. I figured … Continue reading →

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The Guide Gallery

Posted on December 25, 2010 by Adventure Girl

Having toured now for over a month, I’ve encountered tour guides in all shapes and sizes, but whatever the attraction, the excursion, or the adventure, you can be sure to come across one (or more) of the following types: The … Continue reading →

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Peruvian poverty

Posted on December 1, 2010 by Adventure Girl

Nothing quite prepares you for it. I was expecting beggars on the street, people hassling, hoards of homeless, and there was that, but there were also endless shanty houses stacked with mud bricks with not-quite roofs perched on desert slopes … Continue reading →

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Perilous Peru Part 1 – Living in Lima

Posted on November 28, 2010 by Adventure Girl

‘Don´t let people see where you keep your real money,’ my lunchtime companion, a local, tells me. ‘I keep my wallet in here,’ he points to his breast pocket, ‘and pay from here,’ dips his hand in another pocket. ‘And … Continue reading →

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Pretty in Peru

Posted on November 27, 2010 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl sets off solo Today I head to Peru, first stop: Lima. This is where it gets hard. I’m on my own for the first few days before I join my tour. I don’t know the language and I … Continue reading →

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