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‘But I want them to like me!’
Adventure Girl learns a lesson in setting boundaries and saying no At the beginning of last year I made a resolution to ‘stop collecting crazies’. It sounds a little ridiculous when I write it out, but after a succession of … Continue reading
Posted in friendship, personal, reflections, relationship dynamics
Tagged assertiveness, insecurity
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Finding my new ‘normal’
Adventure Girl learns a lesson in life after breast cancer ‘You are a strong person. Just because you are feeling these things now doesn’t mean you aren’t strong underneath. You are reacting to things that have happened to you, and that’s … Continue reading
Posted in jealousy, personal, reflections
Tagged breast cancer, DCIS, health, insecurity, self-confidence
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Lust, love and loneliness
Roberta Bust opens up about her fear of finding herself alone I’ve been officially single for the last 5+ months now, and have found there is a part of me that keeps craving companionship and love, but without the complications … Continue reading
Posted in love, reflections, relationships, single life
Tagged break-ups, loneliness
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Holding on by letting go
Adventure Girl learns a lesson in unleashing her green-eyed monster ‘Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and … Continue reading
Posted in jealousy, reflections, relationship dynamics, relationships
Tagged control, desire, fear, insecurity, lust
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A square peg in a round hole
Adventure Girl learns a lesson on being ‘in like’ “If I was meant to come in a box with a label slapped across me, I would have been produced by Mattel.” Recently I met someone I actually connect with, who … Continue reading
Posted in adventures, libido, open relationship, personal, reflections, relationship dynamics
Tagged love, lust, married sex, monogamy, monotomy, polyarmoury
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Love fool
Adventure Girl learns a lesson on being in lust ‘Knowing my luck, I’ll meet someone I actually want to be with who is rubbish in bed.’ People often talk about having a ‘type’, a particular physique or other combination of attributes … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, dating, Domination & Submission, love, relationship dynamics
Tagged f-buddy, taste in men
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Whose threesome is it anyway?
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover if three can ever be less than a crowd Ever had one of those drunken hook-ups that somehow end up with three of you in a bed? Or maybe you’ve arranged to … Continue reading
Posted in adventures, group sex, open relationship, relationship dynamics, swinging
Tagged communication, couples, etiquette, threesome
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Open, poly or just friendly?
Tiger Tale shares his views on sharing himself Let me start by saying I am ‘polyamorous’ (‘poly’ for short). According to Wikipedia: Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor[love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance … Continue reading
Posted in open relationship, polyamoury, relationship dynamics
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Someone else’s slippers
Adventure Girl learns a lesson in friendship ‘Does this mean I’m dumped?’ In relationships, there are commonly accepted ‘rules’. There are statuses like ‘single’, ‘in a relationship’ or ‘f-buddies’. You form a ‘relationship’, you break up, and sometimes you make … Continue reading
Posted in friendship, relationship dynamics, social commentary
Tagged boundaries, etiquette, expectations, friends of friends
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Bearded weirdness or ‘Playing Paddocks’
A lesson in mixing friends with Adventure Girl Remember that game you used to play as a kid, where you drew up a grid of dots, as big as you could make it, then took turns to connect them with … Continue reading
Posted in friendship, reflections, relationship dynamics
Tagged boundaries, friends of friends
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When like meets like
Christine Priestly shares why you should never date a writer… Over the years I have watched lovers watch me ‘in progress’ during one writing fit or another. Working to deadline, real or imagined, letting my body moulder. During these fits, … Continue reading
Posted in relationship dynamics, relationships
Tagged egos, obsession, taste in men, writers
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Where has all the love gone?
Tiger Tale laments the loss of lovin’ in the world of cyber sex Driving home from work a couple of nights ago, I was stopped at the lights, and when I looked to my left I saw a young couple at … Continue reading →