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One foot in the closet
‘Often I find identifying as bisexual is akin to having multiple passports for different countries, all expired.’ — Faith Cheltenham, President of BiNet USA, in ‘Google’s Bisexual Problem’ For a while now I’ve wondered whether or not I should tell … Continue reading
Posted in little bits of life, sexuality
Tagged bi-invisibility, bi-phobia, bisexual, mono-sexual
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A Unicorn’s Survival Guide
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover how to survive as a single in the Swinger’s Scene. A ‘Unicorn’ is so called because they are mythical creatures: the single female (or male) who appears to fulfil a couple’s erotic fantasy, and … Continue reading
Posted in adventures, open relationship, polyamoury, relationships, sex, single life, swinging
Tagged unicorn
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My dirty little secret, or ‘just another coming out story’
Adventure girl learns a lesson on playing for both sides ‘How did you cope being in a heterosexual relationship for ten years?’ For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a boyfriend. For longer than that, I’ve had fantasies … Continue reading
A busty confession
Roberta Bust opens up about opening her relationship I never thought I would ever be in this position. I’m 29, happily married to an amazing man (let’s call him ‘Ben’). He is my best friend, my confidante, my whole world, … Continue reading
Posted in long term relationships, married sex, open relationship
Tagged monogamy, self-esteem
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A square peg in a round hole
Adventure Girl learns a lesson on being ‘in like’ “If I was meant to come in a box with a label slapped across me, I would have been produced by Mattel.” Recently I met someone I actually connect with, who … Continue reading
Posted in adventures, libido, open relationship, personal, reflections, relationship dynamics
Tagged love, lust, married sex, monogamy, monotomy, polyarmoury
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Getting busy IRL
Weeks 3 & 4 – Tiger Tale goes cold turkey I have been a little lax with my updates of late, but life seems awfully busy and it has taken me until now to get enough free time to post. Ironically the busyness … Continue reading
Withdrawal
Week 2 – Tiger Tale goes cold turkey For those who missed the intro, I am trying to go without porn and masturbation for two months in an attempt to rewire my neural pathways, cleanse my dopamine addiction and rediscover the joys of … Continue reading
No porn? No problem.
Tiger Tale goes cold turkey ‘Two months with no porn, no masturbation, and hopefully my neural pathways will rewire and I’ll start enjoying my sex life again… I plan to diarise my thoughts, feelings, stresses and freak-outs at least once a week … Continue reading
Are we there yet?
‘Personally, apart from when we’re trying to make babies, I think WAY too much emphasis is put on achieving orgasm for both men and women.’ Like many women, I have never had an orgasm from penetrative sex alone. I have … Continue reading
When too much porn is never enough
Tiger Tale regales on what it means to need to start over ‘A growing number of young, healthy Internet pornography users are complaining of delayed ejaculation, inability to be turned on by real partners, and sluggish erections’ – Marnia Robinson, Psychology Today. It’s … Continue reading
Disturbing Arousal
‘We’re the 4chan generation – can’t get off unless it’s at least borderline disturbing.’ – Anon (via Twitter) Recently I participated in a research project examining female desire and pornography. As part of the project I was asked to watch a short female-directed adult film … Continue reading
Posted in pornography, sex
Tagged arousal, desensitise, erotica, expectations, feminism, hardcore, over-exposure, porn industry
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Where has all the love gone?
Tiger Tale laments the loss of lovin’ in the world of cyber sex Driving home from work a couple of nights ago, I was stopped at the lights, and when I looked to my left I saw a young couple at … Continue reading
Posted in love, online dating, sex, single life, social commentary
Tagged cyber sex, romance, sexting
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‘Use it or lose it’
Rhonda Perky’s guide to DIY ‘If women just fucking got over themselves… to [women like that] it is about men having needs that are lesser because they are physical rather than emotional and that sex is somehow an animal thing… … Continue reading
‘Even better than …?’
Rhonda Perky ponders the place of porn in the ‘real world’ ‘Of course I don’t fantasise about my current partner when I masturbate – I get to have real sex with them.’ — Mr ‘Long Rod’ McHugen Dong Modern men … Continue reading
Posted in pornography, relationships
Tagged desensitise, fantasy, hardcore, orgasm, porn industry, reality
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‘up for anything, just don’t tie me down’
Rhonda Perky shares her quirk for intimate role-play Ever been stuck on a train late at night, possibly tipsy, definitely bored, when you find yourself watching the other passengers and wondering who they are and how they live? I have … Continue reading
Posted in BDSM, Domination & Submission, married sex, relationships, role play
Tagged dominant, dress-ups, kink, submissive
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the look of lust
Rhonda Perky pays homage to the website that aims to please by bringing you the look of being pleased… for real. Tired of seeing porn stars who look as though they’d rather be hanging out the washing, watching test cricket, or … Continue reading
Married Sex – A fairytale in three parts
***Warning – this post may ruin your best friend threesome fantasy*** Once upon a time, long term couples were encouraged to ‘share everything’, from a strand of spaghetti to the grizzly details of the monthly cycle. The idea was that … Continue reading
Posted in libido, long term relationships, married sex
Tagged contraceptive pill, miserable marrieds, monogamy, monotomy, variety
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When True Blood meets the Sex Pouf
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover a miracle cure for Married Sex As tends to happen in long term relationships, intimate encounters become less frequent, less spontaneous, less imaginative, and before you know it you’re having Married Sex* … Continue reading
Posted in libido, long term relationships, married sex, pornography, role play
Tagged props, sex pouf, True Blood
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The Magic Number
‘Is a girl who’s slept with 100 guys a bad person?’ This is an actual question on the dating site, OkCupid. Not, ‘Would you feel differently about a person, and in what way?’, but ‘Is she a good or bad person’? (Note: I … Continue reading →