Category Archives: single life

Lust, love and loneliness

Posted on October 30, 2012 by Roberta Bust

Roberta Bust opens up about her fear of finding herself alone I’ve been officially single for the last 5+ months now, and have found there is a part of me that keeps craving companionship and love, but without the complications … Continue reading →

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A Unicorn’s Survival Guide

Posted on August 18, 2012 by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover how to survive as a single in the Swinger’s Scene. A ‘Unicorn’ is so called because they are mythical creatures: the single female (or male) who appears to fulfil a couple’s erotic fantasy, and … Continue reading →

Posted in adventures, open relationship, polyamoury, relationships, sex, single life, swinging | Tagged unicorn | 1 Comment

Learning my limits

Posted on August 2, 2012 by Roberta Bust

Roberta Bust opens up about swinging solo Since my last blog, my situation has changed. I am no longer in an open marriage; we decided that it was better to part ways. Now, I am separated and learning how to … Continue reading →

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Love fool

Posted on March 8, 2012 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl learns a lesson on being in lust ‘Knowing my luck, I’ll meet someone I actually want to be with who is rubbish in bed.’ People often talk about having a ‘type’, a particular physique or other combination of attributes … Continue reading →

Posted in casual sex, dating, Domination & Submission, love, relationship dynamics | Tagged f-buddy, taste in men | 2 Comments

Having my cake

Posted on January 2, 2012 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl ponders the perils of wanting it all ‘So, you’re poly?’ ‘Um. I am?’ I consider myself a free agent. I like to see more than one person, ongoing but casually, and not always just for sex. Having one … Continue reading →

Posted in casual sex, relationships | Tagged f-buddy, feminism, porn pile, sex positive, slut | 4 Comments

The ‘Perfect’ Relationship

Posted on July 18, 2011 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl searches for her perfect match ‘I have to keep telling myself that while this relationship seems perfect, it’s an illusion.’ Like most people, when I first meet someone, I try present my best. I hide my fears and … Continue reading →

Posted in dating, love, relationships, single life | Tagged adult attachment style, insecurity, self-esteem | 1 Comment

Never known

Posted on June 22, 2011 by Rhonda Perky

It’s my back as I leave that you love best Everything about me that you’ll never know You love my absence Of identity Of responsibility an idea a Presence and the lack of anything more an Object, romanticised, sexualised never … Continue reading →

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‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’

Posted on May 29, 2011 by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover what it means to be a Modern ‘Slut’. ‘Men want women to be sluts and now they’re buying in,’ — Professor Gail Dines, quoted in the Brisbane Times. Until a few years … Continue reading →

Posted in casual sex, little bits of life, relationships | Tagged feminism, judgement, porn pile, promiscuity, sex positive, slut, slutwalk | 8 Comments

‘No Strings…?’ Well, maybe a few…

Posted on March 17, 2011 by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda Perky goes under the f*ck-buddy covers to discover a particularly stringy line Don’t let anyone who has a f*ck-buddy (FB) tell you they are not in a relationship. They are. It’s not an exclusive/monogamous relationship, nor is it an … Continue reading →

Posted in casual sex, relationships, single life | Tagged boundaries, break-ups, communication, f-buddy, utilitarian dating | 7 Comments

In the dark…

Posted on March 16, 2011 by Rhonda Perky

I realise I don’t know you don’t want to know you nor you me but also that I like it this way.

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The Rules of the Game

Posted on February 2, 2011 by Adventure Girl

This is actually the first piece I wrote for Rhonda Perky’s Bits, but held off publishing for obvious reasons. It came to mind just now given I am re-entering the Game, hopefully this time, better equipped! Happy reading. –AG Adventure … Continue reading →

Posted in casual sex, dating, relationships, single life | Tagged abusive, compulsive liar, expectations, f-buddy, rules | 3 Comments

why Wing Men are more fun

Posted on September 17, 2010 by Adventure Girl

Adventure Girl learns a lesson on dating in-the-flesh Have you ever been out on the town, keeping an eye out for possibles, as they hunt you, but when you finally get your chance to meet, talk, drink (and hopefully a bit … Continue reading →

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App downloaded, will f*ck

Posted on July 18, 2010 by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to locate an instant lover Pine no longer for tawdry men’s room hookups! TheXChange is an application for your iPhone or iPod Touch that will allow you contact people in your area (and outside … Continue reading →

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‘No strings, yes please…’

Posted on May 9, 2010 by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda Perky goes under-the-covers to blow a load over Red Hot Pie. So you’re keen to find Mr No-Strings-Attached for some regular fun, or maybe a Mr One-Night-Stand for an all night scratch? Forget the hit and miss of bars … Continue reading →

Posted in casual sex, online dating, relationships, single life | Tagged hook-ups, persona, Red Hot Pie | 2 Comments