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Lust, love and loneliness
Roberta Bust opens up about her fear of finding herself alone I’ve been officially single for the last 5+ months now, and have found there is a part of me that keeps craving companionship and love, but without the complications … Continue reading
Posted in love, reflections, relationships, single life
Tagged break-ups, loneliness
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A Unicorn’s Survival Guide
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover how to survive as a single in the Swinger’s Scene. A ‘Unicorn’ is so called because they are mythical creatures: the single female (or male) who appears to fulfil a couple’s erotic fantasy, and … Continue reading
Posted in adventures, open relationship, polyamoury, relationships, sex, single life, swinging
Tagged unicorn
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Learning my limits
Roberta Bust opens up about swinging solo Since my last blog, my situation has changed. I am no longer in an open marriage; we decided that it was better to part ways. Now, I am separated and learning how to … Continue reading
Posted in adventures, reflections, single life, swinging
Tagged boundaries, challenge, dress-ups, self-confidence
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Love fool
Adventure Girl learns a lesson on being in lust ‘Knowing my luck, I’ll meet someone I actually want to be with who is rubbish in bed.’ People often talk about having a ‘type’, a particular physique or other combination of attributes … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, dating, Domination & Submission, love, relationship dynamics
Tagged f-buddy, taste in men
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Having my cake
Adventure Girl ponders the perils of wanting it all ‘So, you’re poly?’ ‘Um. I am?’ I consider myself a free agent. I like to see more than one person, ongoing but casually, and not always just for sex. Having one … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, relationships
Tagged f-buddy, feminism, porn pile, sex positive, slut
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Never known
It’s my back as I leave that you love best Everything about me that you’ll never know You love my absence Of identity Of responsibility an idea a Presence and the lack of anything more an Object, romanticised, sexualised never … Continue reading
‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover what it means to be a Modern ‘Slut’. ‘Men want women to be sluts and now they’re buying in,’ — Professor Gail Dines, quoted in the Brisbane Times. Until a few years … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, little bits of life, relationships
Tagged feminism, judgement, porn pile, promiscuity, sex positive, slut, slutwalk
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‘No Strings…?’ Well, maybe a few…
Rhonda Perky goes under the f*ck-buddy covers to discover a particularly stringy line Don’t let anyone who has a f*ck-buddy (FB) tell you they are not in a relationship. They are. It’s not an exclusive/monogamous relationship, nor is it an … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, relationships, single life
Tagged boundaries, break-ups, communication, f-buddy, utilitarian dating
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In the dark…
I realise I don’t know you don’t want to know you nor you me but also that I like it this way.
The Rules of the Game
This is actually the first piece I wrote for Rhonda Perky’s Bits, but held off publishing for obvious reasons. It came to mind just now given I am re-entering the Game, hopefully this time, better equipped! Happy reading. –AG Adventure … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, dating, relationships, single life
Tagged abusive, compulsive liar, expectations, f-buddy, rules
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why Wing Men are more fun
Adventure Girl learns a lesson on dating in-the-flesh Have you ever been out on the town, keeping an eye out for possibles, as they hunt you, but when you finally get your chance to meet, talk, drink (and hopefully a bit … Continue reading
App downloaded, will f*ck
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to locate an instant lover Pine no longer for tawdry men’s room hookups! TheXChange is an application for your iPhone or iPod Touch that will allow you contact people in your area (and outside … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, dating, reviews
Tagged App, hook-ups, no strings attached, the XChange
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‘No strings, yes please…’
Rhonda Perky goes under-the-covers to blow a load over Red Hot Pie. So you’re keen to find Mr No-Strings-Attached for some regular fun, or maybe a Mr One-Night-Stand for an all night scratch? Forget the hit and miss of bars … Continue reading
Posted in casual sex, online dating, relationships, single life
Tagged hook-ups, persona, Red Hot Pie
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Where has all the love gone?
Tiger Tale laments the loss of lovin’ in the world of cyber sex Driving home from work a couple of nights ago, I was stopped at the lights, and when I looked to my left I saw a young couple at … Continue reading →